Let’s be honest, moms. It’s hard to keep up with all those dates on the calendar, from family birthdays, party invites, sporting events, music recitals, and of course, all those holidays. I lose track so easily, and more often than not, I’m running around in a panic, sending belated cards along with an apology that I’m late once again.
This seems to be especially true for Father’s Day. I’m not sure what it is about Father’s Day. Perhaps since it tends to land near the end of the school year or the beginning of summer—it always seems to just sneak up on me.
I must admit, I’ve had my moments of cursing the person or persons (I mainly blame the card companies!) who created all of these darn holidays. There are times, though, when I am grateful someone thought to create a holiday just for fathers. It allows busy and forgetful moms like myself to actually pause for a few moments to appreciate the dads in our lives.
So here are a few reasons I appreciate the best father (and husband) that I know.
- He doesn’t sweat the small stuff. Sometimes it drives me crazy that he is so easy going and not easily wrapped up with worrying about the kids. I tend to worry about everything—are the kids getting enough vegetables to eat? Did they eat too much sugar today? Are they watching too much TV and will it impact their future success? If it weren’t for Jon to keep me from going to “crazy town”, the kids certainly wouldn’t be as well balanced as they are now.
- He lets the kids take risks. I am very much a helicopter parent who likes taking the safe road, as much as possible. It’s been a challenge for me to let the kids play and explore independently, without being right there, by their side, every step of the day. While I may have never “loosened the rope”, Jon has allowed our kids to take the space they need to explore their independence and attempt adventurous things (within some boundaries, of course). I feel this is such an important life lesson for our children, and I’m so glad they are able to learn this from their dad.
- He dates his wife. It’s taken us a long time to get to a place where we are consistently having a date night, just for ourselves. At times after calculating our babysitter and entertainment costs, I ask him if we should take a break on date nights for a while. But he’s adamant and very protective about our date nights, for the sake of our marriage (and sanity). He takes care of setting up the babysitter and makes sure our kids know that we’re going on a date, and sometimes he refers to me as his girlfriend (which is cute). How is this related to being a good dad? It’s teaching our kids that they are not the center of the universe and that mommy and daddy are in a real, meaningful relationship and we are making a conscious effort to maintain it. He is setting a great example for our son on how to become a good husband, and for our daughters to see what a good husband looks like.
Those are just three of the many reasons why I appreciate my husband. I’m embarrassed to say that I don’t tell him enough how much I appreciate him and how great of a father he is to our children. But, I’m working on it and that’s what matters.