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    • #239557

      My 4 year old behaves fine at home. We get the odd tantrum but again he is 4. I can get him to do things without much fuss and minimal coaxing. He’s been in his current daycare since June and at the beginning he had a hard time adjusting. But gradually his behaviors got better and I had pretty good reports at the end of the day. He then started PreK at the same center with the same teachers about 3 weeks ago now. And we had a good start but this past week has been back to square one with him being defiant or ignoring the teachers and even throwing toys and pushing other kids. I’ve reiterated to him that it’s not acceptable and he talks about it and says he can do better. But as soon as I’m not there it’s the same thing. The worrying part is now the school want me to take him to be screened for sensory disorders and such. Which I will do because I’m also at a loss to explain his behavior. But it also makes you feel like your the only Mom with a trouble child in the world and that the class is perfect except for your child, you know.

      I’m hoping other Moms have been there and can offer some advice if they’ve been in the same boat.

      I should mention that before this center he attended a different one that barely monitored the children and he was always coming home with scrapes and bruises from fights with other kids getting out of hand. Then I observed his teacher without her knowledge one morning marching him along holding his hands in the air in front of her roughly while he cried. I removed him from there and found this new center. It’s been loads better and he seemed to be improving day by day but now it’s back to square one almost! The only thing that seems to have changed at his current school was the class got some new students and the whole PreK curriculum started. At my wits end!

    • #341109

      If you can stay at the class for a few hours see if you can walk the child through the process of being in class. When the day ends talk with the teacher and the child do a reward system ask if there’s new friends or classmates in school. Give a sticker or some kind of prize at the end of the day. A sticker board when good nothing when misbehaving. Just an idea

    • #343693

      screening is a good idea, I think. But you are far from the only Mom with worries and problems – it’s ALL of us. If you can spend time with him at his day care, like you did at the first place (good for you), that would be useful.

    • #344420

      Sorry you’re dealing with this. Have you asked your pediatrician? He or she may have some helpful advice.

    • #353404


      great tips

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    • #357339

      The nights I let my son watch his computer in bed he is a nightmare the next day – maybe try less computer time? He is 4 as well

    • #351304

      Possibly a jealously thing? I don’t know how your kid is or how your normal everyday life is at home but he could be jealous of other kids, embarrassed or nervous ect. even if he doesn’t act like that at home it could just be around other kids & people that he doesn’t really know to well, i have a 4 year old boy myself and he’s REALLY CRAZY Lol. Boys will be boys though, pretty natural for them to be trouble makers at school their first couple of years or act up while they’re there. You could be the most strict parent and the nicest in the world to your kid and they’ll still act up, that’s just how some things go when they start their first year of school. Set boundaries, Punishments, maybe a an allowance or a “Good Jar” for being bad & good in school and that’ll work hopefully. Don’t be too harsh though considering it’s a normal natural thing for kids to do when they’re around other kids, Goodluck on that one! 🤣

    • #377495

      Sorry your gong thru this maybe an attention thing

    • #377720

      sorry to hear

    • #377721

      sorry to hear

    • #377723

      test one

    • #377812

      good advice

    • #380272

      before sending your child to school try putting a heart shape in the palm of their hand telling them that when things go wrong or they feel sad all they need to do is open their hand and touch the heart and know that you are thinking of them too and everything will be ok

    • #377684

      I’ve been going through something similar with my 3 yo. I’ve been trying to work on structure at home. Just little things like movie time where we sit on the rug and aren’t allowed to play with toys or get up. For mine I think the problem is home is relaxed so he doesn’t understand the need to cooperate in a structured environment. I hope you find something that works for 4. In the meantime rest in knowing he’ll more than likely out grow this stage soon.

    • #377589

      I have a boy age 9 that does that. He is ADHD maybe check into that?

    • #385655

      1st off know your not alone and you got this momma. Screening is a good idea and honestly if your worried consult your Doctor. They might come up with a answer or nothing at all. Either way it will help ease your mind. But make sure you set boundaries, punishments, maybe a reward system for good school behavior. (We have a prize jar, I normally fill it with small candy pieces or small prizes from the dollar store) Don’t be too harsh on yourself or your little guy, considering it’s a normal natural thing for kids to do when they’re around other kids and adults that are not family. Good luck on that one!

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