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  • #197942

    Hello ladies,

    So, I am going through a very bittersweet time right now and could use as much advice and some reassurance….Okay a LOT of reassurance. Here’s my deal:

    On March 6th, I found that I was expecting my baby #3. I went through a roller coaster of emotions as I’m sure many mamas would. I told my husband who was really excited because to him that means that we could have a potential BOY since we already have two gorgeous daughters, 5 and 3. All good right? Wrong!!!! Anybody who knows me knows that the only ones opinions who matter the most to me are that of my girls. I told them that they were going to be big sisters and that mommy had a baby in her tummy. My 3 year old was happy, my 5 year old was a different story, entirely! Her smile completely diminished, she backed up, put her arms out at started to do like a “NO” wave with both hands. She cried and screamed and them covered her ears. The happiness I felt turned into heartbreak. I have been trying to incorporate conversations about the baby that end the same way. I found out about 2 weeks ago that we are having our BOY! I started easing in to her about her having a baby brother and she started telling me that she doesn’t want a baby, she will not love him, that if I have a baby that I will make her go away and that I won’t play with her anymore. She says that (WE) as in us and her grandparents, will not love her anymore and that we are going to make her go away. She always covers her ears when she thinks i’m going to bring up baby talk and tells me to leave her alone. She says that if I have another baby that she would want to go live with her grandparents. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. Is this just a phase? Me and my husband have ALWAYS been there for her, I’m a stay at home mom and am literally with my girls 24/7. My heart breaks for her and the bittersweet thing about all this is that I’m so happy that i’m finally going to get to experience having a son and for the first time shopping for blue instead of pink, but the bitter part is that I feel like I can’t completely be happy because I don’t want to upset my girl. Is this too excessive of her? Is this normal? Has anyone experienced this before? My daughter loves her little sister, so I can’t understand why she’s so devastated about this. Am I overreacting? Will this pass once the baby arrives? Any and all advice, I will surely appreciate.

    Sorry for the book, but I wholeheartedly appreciate anyone who reads this and gives me some comfort. Thank you super mamas!

  • #198489

    maybe begin to play with one of her dolls with her, shows her how much fun the two of you will have sharing baby care

  • #198496

    It may help to reassure her that you will always have time for her, even with a new baby. And that she will be a good helper to you.

  • #231983

    I work with children in this age group . Girls are extremely sensitive to this topic of having a new baby at this age. It is not at all unusual. If I was you I’d go ahead do whatever you need to plan for your new baby. Let her cover her ears and vent her frustrations shes very entitled to her emotions just like we are as adults.Unless there some serious emotional or physical disabilities I don’t think you need to worry. Sit her down and just listen .

  • #239603

    Good information

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