support and love your children and allow them to be who they want to be. you can try to mold them .. nature vs. nuture but soon they will be out of your control and what they remember is love and support … or lack there of
I think it’s more about the child realizing their identity and then deciding it for themselves. It’s not up to the parent to decide, just support and protect them from anyone who starts hating. I don’t see anything wrong, children have to decide for themselves and communicate their loved ones.